I Kissed Him - He Hasn’t Called - What Do I Do?
Q: On Valentine’s Day, I kissed my favorite boy in the world. He hasn’t called me and I’m wondering what I should do.
A: Well, four days have passed since Valentine’s Day, so my guess is that you haven’t waited for my wise answer about what to “do!” Your question is excellent, however, and hopefully you have had the insight to “do” what I’m about to say.
Are you ready? ….. NOTHING!
You should go about your business as if you could care less about this boy! You have plenty of other people and activities in your life demanding your time and attention.
If this boy was not able to figure out on his own that you’re a girl he wants to spend time with, you can’t make him! He absolutely must figure it out on his own!
There is nothing less attractive than a needy girl!!! People in general are intrigued by others who are joyful and fun on their own, men/boys find this especially attractive.
Now I’m going to get on my soap box. Girls should not be pursuing boys. I can’t emphasize this enough. Unfortunately, womens’ lib and the sexual revolution have given girls and women the idea that it can all be up to us.
Don’t get me wrong, it can, however, it is not in the natural order of things. Please let men be men, be yourself, enjoy yourself; men will notice.
Men need to make the first move, women should receive the overture with gratitude. To provide a little incentive, a woman can make it clear to a man that she is interested in him by making eye contact, smiling, touching him casually, enjoying his jokes, etc.
Men, if you’re not getting these cues, she’s probably not interested. If you are, don’t be a chump! Man up and ask her out!
BOTTOM LINE:
- If he’s interested, he’ll let you know. If he’s not there’s nothing you can do about it!
- Go out and have fun, be yourself, be grateful for all that is! The right one will be interested.
Is there a better way for both of us to get what we want?
Q: My girl and I have been together for awhile and we fight. We fight about things we agree on. I don’t like to fight. She says it’s good resolve things. Is there a better way for both of us to get what we want?
A: You and your girl clearly agree that communication is important. That’s great! Fighting, however, is not communication.
What you need to do is agree to communicate respectfully, especially if you disagree on something.
At a time when you are not actually fighting, you must set agreed upon rules for disagreements, such as:
1) She is allowed two or three minutes to communicate her opinion uninterrupted, then you are.
2) Ask questions to explore her opinion, not to make her wrong. She should then offer you the same courtesy.
3) If you still disagree, agree that it’s ok to disagree and move on! I don’t understand why you’re fighting over things you agree about, that makes no sense to me.
BOTTOM LINE:
- Discuss things respectfully and agree to disagree.
- If you and your girl can’t do this, my opinion is that life is too short.
- Find someone else who is able to communicate in a more mature and respectful manner!
