My Boyfriend Is Afraid To Marry Me
July 23, 2009 · Filed Under Letters to Molly
I need your help. I have a 1 year relationship with my boyfriend, I love him and He Says that he Loves me but won’t make a Commitment. He is afraid that if he marry me, he will lose this feelings for me because of the routine of the life. He said that he want’s never be apart but he won’t to marry me, but I want to be married with him.
Please, I really need your help because I don’t know what to do.
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it is such a struggle because on one hand you LOVE him, and after a year you are COMFORTABLE in the relationship. If I understand you correctly, he has told you flat out that he doesn’t want the same type of commitment you do. This is so simple from the outside looking in (my perspective). If what you want is marriage, you’re with the wrong guy. You say he “never wants to be apart;” you’ll find out just how true that is when you break up with him because you want to get married and he doesn’t.
DO NOT end the relationship hoping to manipulate him into changing his mind. You will end the relationship because your goals are not in sync. It is said that when you close one door, another will open. Recognize that ending the relationship with him will move you closer to your goal of marriage. He has already foretold your future: He believes he may someday “lose his feelings for you because of the routine of life.” Life can become routine whether a couple is married or not, it’s just easier to break up than to get a divorce! Don’t waste another day with him.