What can I do to prevent myself from dating someone who is already involved in another relationship?
Q. The other day I asked this girl out and she told me she didn’t have a boyfriend. Then, it turns out she did. He had been through it before and it wasn’t like he wanted to kill me or anything, but I was still totally freaked out. Does that kind of thing happen a lot?
How do I approach women without acting like a jerk?
Q. I’m sort of shy. I see girls hanging out with guys that are complete jerks. When I act like that girls don’t respond the same. Where’s the line between being attractive and being offensive when it comes to hitting on women?
Is there a better way for both of us to get what we want?
Q: My girl and I have been together for awhile and we fight. We fight about things we agree on. I don’t like to fight. She says it’s good resolve things. Is there a better way for both of us to get what we want?
A: You and your girl clearly agree that communication is important. That’s great! Fighting, however, is not communication.
What you need to do is agree to communicate respectfully, especially if you disagree on something.
At a time when you are not actually fighting, you must set agreed upon rules for disagreements, such as:
1) She is allowed two or three minutes to communicate her opinion uninterrupted, then you are.
2) Ask questions to explore her opinion, not to make her wrong. She should then offer you the same courtesy.
3) If you still disagree, agree that it’s ok to disagree and move on! I don’t understand why you’re fighting over things you agree about, that makes no sense to me.
BOTTOM LINE:
- Discuss things respectfully and agree to disagree.
- If you and your girl can’t do this, my opinion is that life is too short.
- Find someone else who is able to communicate in a more mature and respectful manner!
